Comments for Women Move the Soul http://womenmovethesoul.com Women Inspiring Women! Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:21:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on The Whisper of Subtle Abuse – How to Recognize the Signs by Cammi P. http://womenmovethesoul.com/the-whisper-of-subtle-abuse-how-to-recognize-the-signs/#comment-162 Cammi P. Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:21:54 +0000 http://womenmovethesoul.com/?p=991#comment-162 I think abuse has it's beginnings in control. Once they see you are controllable, then they move in to dominate their will over yours. And it may all be in a subconscious realm with them...at first! After a hideous time with what I called "abuse under the radar", I had to ask myself the tough question as to why was I abuse-able? Why did I ALLOW it to go on for so many years? And even once I REALIZED what was going on, then I spent several years DENYING it was as bad as it was. (My counselor said the #1 reason woman get stuck is the self talk of "it's not that bad!")Well my answers were partly because I had a "fear response" to it all and other personality quirks, not to mention simple naivety!! I needed those answers in order to keep myself from repeating possible similar situations ever again, and to realize NO WOMAN, no matter what, should have to put up with mistreatment, much less abuse!! I also realized that so much of his abuse at first was #1. Not what he ever intended at first...but it escalated as he allowed his lack of true RESPECT for me and boundaries, etc.to take over #2. Next was intimidating statements and blame shifting. You know something's wrong with ME cause I'm not cooperating with him. Yuck. And humiliation by telling friend after friend and presenting himself as the saint! Never ever physical abuse, although sometimes I wish there wouldve been so I had a visual to wake me up sooner!! And put having kids into the mix and I really felt trapped, cause now I felt like it would be my fault if I broke up my little family and I perceived catastrophe for my babies. This guy was wonderful in so many areas...that too kept my thinking hostage to "it's not that bad" mentality.(VERY important my dear sisters!) It's a whole lot more complex as many know than this but...I thank God He helped me realize little by little and gave me freedom from the shame and other bondages that go along with abuse! I think abuse has it’s beginnings in control. Once they see you are controllable, then they move in to dominate their will over yours. And it may all be in a subconscious realm with them…at first! After a hideous time with what I called “abuse under the radar”, I had to ask myself the tough question as to why was I abuse-able? Why did I ALLOW it to go on for so many years? And even once I REALIZED what was going on, then I spent several years DENYING it was as bad as it was. (My counselor said the #1 reason woman get stuck is the self talk of “it’s not that bad!”)Well my answers were partly because I had a “fear response” to it all and other personality quirks, not to mention simple naivety!! I needed those answers in order to keep myself from repeating possible similar situations ever again, and to realize NO WOMAN, no matter what, should have to put up with mistreatment, much less abuse!! I also realized that so much of his abuse at first was #1. Not what he ever intended at first…but it escalated as he allowed his lack of true RESPECT for me and boundaries, etc.to take over #2. Next was intimidating statements and blame shifting. You know something’s wrong with ME cause I’m not cooperating with him. Yuck. And humiliation by telling friend after friend and presenting himself as the saint! Never ever physical abuse, although sometimes I wish there wouldve been so I had a visual to wake me up sooner!! And put having kids into the mix and I really felt trapped, cause now I felt like it would be my fault if I broke up my little family and I perceived catastrophe for my babies. This guy was wonderful in so many areas…that too kept my thinking hostage to “it’s not that bad” mentality.(VERY important my dear sisters!) It’s a whole lot more complex as many know than this but…I thank God He helped me realize little by little and gave me freedom from the shame and other bondages that go along with abuse!

]]> Comment on Remember Paper Dolls? by Tomaca http://womenmovethesoul.com/remember-paper-dolls/#comment-146 Tomaca Sun, 22 Jan 2012 21:22:52 +0000 http://womenmovethesoul.com/?p=1387#comment-146 Yes, they still make them. I was surprised to find that out too - especially with kids now playing video games and games on their cell phones. Yes, they still make them. I was surprised to find that out too – especially with kids now playing video games and games on their cell phones.

]]> Comment on Remember Paper Dolls? by Mary http://womenmovethesoul.com/remember-paper-dolls/#comment-145 Mary Sun, 22 Jan 2012 20:57:33 +0000 http://womenmovethesoul.com/?p=1387#comment-145 Nice I remeber when I use to play with them, didn't know they still make them. It's nice to see things like that remind me of the good old days Nice I remeber when I use to play with them, didn’t know they still make them. It’s nice to see things like that remind me of the good old days

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]]> Comment on Deidre – Finding Her Own Soul By Saving Animals by Njuta http://womenmovethesoul.com/deidre-croce-finding-her-soul-by-saving-animals/#comment-135 Njuta Thu, 05 Jan 2012 03:38:34 +0000 http://womenmovethesoul.com/?p=1363#comment-135 Yes, we can treat and feed them. I see how many women are fed by a flock of hungry cats and it pleases me .Thanks! Да, мы можем лечить и кормить их. Я вижу, как многие женщины кормят стаи голодных кошек, и мне доставляет удовольствие.Спасибо! Yes, we can treat and feed them. I see how many women are fed by a flock of hungry cats and it pleases me .Thanks!

Да, мы можем лечить и кормить их. Я вижу, как многие женщины кормят стаи голодных кошек, и мне доставляет удовольствие.Спасибо!

]]> Comment on Deidre – Finding Her Own Soul By Saving Animals by Deidre http://womenmovethesoul.com/deidre-croce-finding-her-soul-by-saving-animals/#comment-134 Deidre Wed, 04 Jan 2012 21:22:18 +0000 http://womenmovethesoul.com/?p=1363#comment-134 Hi Njuta, I have seen how animals are treated in other parts of the world and it is heartbreaking. The only advice I can give is to say start to help in small ways. Feed a stray that you find, set up a shelter, let others see you treating the animals with kindness, educate children on the importance of treating all living things with respect and kindness. I read a quote that helped put this all into perspective for me "I may not be able to make a difference for all animals, but I can make all the difference for some of them". If we all did this, it would change everything. Thank you for writing and for caring. Deidre Hi Njuta,
I have seen how animals are treated in other parts of the world and it is heartbreaking. The only advice I can give is to say start to help in small ways. Feed a stray that you find, set up a shelter, let others see you treating the animals with kindness, educate children on the importance of treating all living things with respect and kindness. I read a quote that helped put this all into perspective for me “I may not be able to make a difference for all animals, but I can make all the difference for some of them”. If we all did this, it would change everything. Thank you for writing and for caring.
Deidre

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